Psychic readers and spiritual teachers are asked this question often, and sometimes they must respond that you need to check in with your own vibration first before they can offer a direct answer—because you will not attract what you are not a vibrational match to. 

You have likely witnessed people who live and breathe just to be in a relationship—even one that lacks boundaries, standards or expectations. Because they were in a low vibrational energy state, they attracted another person of a similar vibration. A classic example is the victim and narcissistic relationship. How quickly people learn from such experiences depends on how quickly they are capable of evolving and shifting their energy.  

Could it be there was a karmic relationship to experience? Perhaps, but if you have been in a vicious cycle of such patterns throughout your life, then the possibilities are that you are a young soul with much to learn; you experienced a traumatic childhood with your primary caregivers and associate pleasing others with survival; or you repeat toxic ancestral patterns. 

You must to do your own deep work to figure out where the blockage is, and there are many experienced light workers who can guide you in this process. But you need to fall in love with yourself first, meet your own needs, romance yourself and define your own boundaries—then you will be a match to another healthy soul.  

To learn how vibrational energy can affect various facets of your life, contact Elysian Fields. Location: 1273 S Tamiami Trail, Sarasota. For more information, call 941-361-3006, email [email protected] or visit ElysianFieldsOnline.com.